Re: OT Marriage Problem

Posted by Bill Carlton on April 12, 2006 at 10:04:26 from (68.35.255.97):

In Reply to: OT Marriage Problem posted by blank on April 11, 2006 at 18:28:39:

As long as you have children that are dependent upon you, I would say that you have to put your children first, yourself second, and your wife third.

Secondarily, your parents also need to do some estate planning so that your wife will not inherit part of your family farm if you end up getting divorced.

You have to ask yourself do you really want to stay married to her? Is her telling you to get out really because of moving to the ranch or is it because of other underlying problems? Does she really wants out of the marriage anyway?

If she cares about you and truly wants to stay married, I would try to compromise with her. I love living in the country and my wife does not.

If she has a good job and would be happy in letting you quit your job to pursue your dream of running the family ranch, I would think about staying where you are and commuting to work every day.

There is no money in the cattle business in the climate that I am in and where land values are high. I would really evaluate whether you could show a net profit in that business before you quit your job, especially if you have to pour your wife's income into the business to stay afloat. With the size tract you have and if there is no debt, you might make it okay.

I love my wife dearly, but sometimes I don't think she has every spent a happy day in her life. I don't think she can help it because her mother is miserable.

Life is tough and I empathize with you in the decisions you have to make.

After hearing everyone's advice, it is ultimately your decision and you have to do what is best for you and your children.

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