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Case Lady
02-09-2007 08:10:27
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First, sorry this is such a long-winded post but with this Valentines Day coming, there have been questions asked here and I thought I would share something from a female point of view. I went back and read a couple of posts and am going out on a limb here. You can take this for what it is worth, which is what you paid for it - nothing. What I wanted from my guy was to know that I was loved, even though I am not a size 5 anymore, it would have been nice for him to tell me that I am still beautiful, that he appreciates what I do for him. If you really want to throw her a curve ball, offer to cook dinner, not take her out but to actually fix dinner for her - if you can't cook, pick something up from her favorite eating joint and bring it home - then clean up the dishes afterwards. Or, if you have small kids, offer to keep the kids for a while so she can have a couple of hours to do whatever she wants - take a bubble bath, read a book, take a nap, just something that she never does for herself because she doesn't have time anymore and then don't fuss about what she does. Offer to help her fold the laundry - chances are, the fact that you offer means more than anything and she might not take your help, that just knowing you offered might be enough. It is the small things that mean the most, holding her hand, rubbing her back for her, offering to help her do the everyday mundane things that she does. Flowers are very nice, but buying a plant and actually planting it for her, so that everytime she sees this rose bush/tree/shrub, she is reminded that you did that for her, will mean more than you could possibly know. If she has been after you to do something like put up a clothesline, hang a picture, fix something and you haven't had time to do it, do that before she asks again. Believe me guys, most of us don't like to nag about things, but sometimes that is the only way to get something done. I understand that you guys are busy and hard working, that is why doing these things that don't really seem like a big deal to you mean so much to us. It means that you care and that you are giving from your heart, not your pocketbook and anything else, you are giving your time and your love. Guys, trust me, let her know that you love her, that she is still beautiful to you and that you care and want her to be happy. A woman is like a diesel engine, you have to warm it up a little bit so that you can get what you want from it. If she feels good about herself, knows that you think she is still beautiful and love her, she will bust her rear doing for you and try her best to give you want you want. So many times we get stuck in looking at the negatives, that we don't see the positives until it is too late and they aren't there any longer. Sorry for the sermon, but this comes from my heart. I don't want anyone to go through what I/we have been going through for the last year. This isn't directed at anyone here, just things from a different point of view for you to ponder on. Yall take care and have a good'un. CL
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