O/T: LITTLE WIFE AND ROMANCE

Rule 1:
Take no marital advice from a divorced man.

Rule 2:
Take little to no advice from a man who wishes he was divorced.

Rule 3:
Take no advice from a single man.

Rule 4:
Marriage is about comprimise-Both ways.

Rule 5:
You do not have to be copies of each other, just respect each other and each other's individuality. If you try to be like her or get her to be like you...See rule number 1.

Follow those rules and you should be fine.

Says she, "I think my Dad would approve!"

(Her dad was a dairy farmer....)

Best of Luck,
Dave

By the way, every state varys on laws but in KY you have not been married long enough for alamony or any thing. If things look like they are going to get bad e-mail me, and I will pass along some tricks I learned the hard way. Best of luck and hope things work out for yall.

I've got a nephew who's the same way...married to the sexiest little thing alive and what does doofus want to do? Ride 4 wheelers or hang with the homies. Geezus....if I wasn't so old, I'd sneak down and keep a smile on her face and hand him $10 for beer a gas.

Actually if she is concerned now this early in your marrage you have no options or opinion if your wife and child mean what they should.... regardless!. You can be thankfull you are smart enough to realize a posible conflict before it becomes one. Tractor pulling is a plus if she wants to let you. If she can get involved and be a winner or a good compeditor more power to both of you. Did you ever consider how wealthy most men would be if the wives said no more often? I wonder how they put up with us as good as they do. I am as full of BS as the best of the pack, but that tractor pullin ain't nothin compared to a loving wife and child at the end of the track.

Now for forplay my line is ---HEY YOU AWAKE?

Don't ever say --honey thats not the way my first wife did that! Never scream out your first wives name as you crest the top of the mountian---you know what the heck I mean.

Tell her she is the only woman in town that don't like your love makin. OK I will stop.

But back to the point of your post. Tonight grab your little one then hug your wife. Should be pretty easy question to answer because that tractor won't be any more important to you than your first diaper you wore. Never try to fix problems
when anyone is upset, feels threatend or just plain demands a answer. Only when she feels nothing nor anyone is actualy important enough to discuss. I could write a book on what not to do, and cry a river on what I should a doooowed. This is a decision you can reflect on the rest of your live. MY best wishes, an we can do the pullin for ya, if needed.

Get your wife and then children involved so they can have an opportunity to see if they like any part of what you are doing.

My wife and daughter have taken to my hunting, they both took turkey of their own last year for the first time WITHOUT ME!!! that kinda hurt, they dont need me anymore..... .but I will always tag along when I can.

I still go with my male friends but enjoy going with my daughter and wife.

We also share a love for horses and do that together. I take my son to the dirt track races and tractor pulls. Daughter and wife not interested in that.

Wife and I like auctions, flea markets and antique searching.

Kids like driving the tractors and old farm truck, ITS THE KEWLEST THING, and so do their friends.

My wife isn't so crazy about it sometimes but hey, I always leave the yard and come back driving, kids just take over when moms out of sight.

Get them involved is a good idea and let them pitch in and feel useful rather than a lump left in the background.

Sermon # 2 in an endless series = HA

I have 16 yrs of marital experience. So here are a few suggestions.

1) I would suggest you have a sit down and get an exact definition of what she means by you are not romantic enough. Ask what her expectations are and then you can figure out what her needs are so you can address them. Men are born FIX IT personalities so you have a task at hand. Just get the details so you can work on it.

2) You will feel different when your child is born ( HOPEFULLY ) I have 3 children and I can tell you there is no love you have ever felt like the one you experience with children. I can't explain it so don't ask, I know there are other DAD's on here that will AMEN that!!! You will find that you want to spend more time with them and maybe skip a pull or two and that life has other responsibilites that require your attention.

3) If you are dedicated to Pulling and your wife knew that before marrying you, if she loves you, she will want you to enjoy that and continue just maybe not every night in the barn till 2am and then all weekend gone every weekend.

4) You both will find what works for you - just talk about it and dont let it all build up and then blow up like a wound up tractor going down the track!!!

5) It's normally none of my business but since you asked, her goes..... .....

Pray, take your wife and child to church and keep that a part of your life, if its not, make it a part of your life/marriage. God will never let you down and he is the best friend you could ever have.

I'm through preachin'

Robert

Jim

HOW STUPID CAN ONE BE, OVER 50% OF MARRIAGE TURNS INTO DIVORCE, BECAUSE THE WORD (ME) COMES BEFORE (YOU) AND YOU WILL PAY THE PRICE.

I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR OVER 47 YEARS TO THE ONE AND ONLY, SO I KNOW OF WHERE I SPEAK...

the "second" time i got married, i had already made up my mind that i would change my life to make hers right, no matter what it meant giving up.

i get along pretty good with one of my kids fom the first marriage now. the other one doesn't like me much, so i don't see him at all. this really bothers me, but there's no going back to change it now.

my second wife and i have been together for 30 years now, and i got to raise our son all the way thru from the start, and now i'm watching him get thru college and turn into a man.

everything i gave up the second time around, has been given back me with more wonderful experiences than i could have ever thought a man could be blessed with.

don't let anyone TELL you what to do or not to do, what to give up or what to keep. it is and should be up to you to decide...just remember there are consequences, good and bad, for every decision you make in life. decide what is most important and then do what YOU think is best, and do it only because you "want" to, and be ready to sacrifice, and also gain some things either way you go.

-mike

last christmas i bought my wife one of those mood rings so i could keep track of her moods and maybe avoid any trouble while taking advantage of her "good moods" i noticed that when she was in a good mood, the ring turned blue....but when she gets in a bad mood...the ring puts a big red welt on the side of my head! it definately works...but you might not wanna try it.

-mike

Why does a woman wear white on her wedding day?

So the dish washer will match the other appliances.