Fathers Day

john in la · Jun 16, 2019

After losing both my mom and dad just 9 months ago these holidays sure are hard to get threw.
To take my mind off the holiday I got the wife and 2 of my grandsons (one made 5 today and other is 8) and went fishing.
We caught our limit and had a nice fun day.
Now it is back to reality.

Someone please assure me this gets eaiser with passing time.

SVcummins · Jun 16, 2019

Been fixing fence today and since it was Father?s Day I got thinking about all the time me and grandpa spent together on that place fixing fence moving cows or just eating our dinner watching the cows and calves .

JD Seller · Jun 16, 2019

What I have found is the pain of losing loved ones lessens with time. For me remembering the good times I had with them seems to help when feeling down. Keeping oneself busy when feeling down is a good way to go too. You spending the day with your grandsons is just paying forward memories for them to cherish when they are older and your gone.

Dsmythe · Jun 16, 2019

John;
I lost my Dad in 1988. He and I were close, we just lived 200 miles apart. It was hard for me when he stepped into his new body.
It will be easier and you Will get Through it, I hope you never "get Over It".
The one thing that made it more bearable was that I never quit "telling His Story", if you find someone to listen....Tell them about your Dad and Your Mom.
It looks like you are passing on to the next generation what you have been given from your past generations. Nice looking fish! Dsmythe

M-MAN · Jun 17, 2019

It will get easier John. Not quickly but it will. My wife lost both hers a couple months apart about 25 years ago. Took her a while too. I lost Pop 19 years ago. It was several years before I could even bear to mess with one of our old tractors. Most of the time I was fine but some holidays are tough. This was the first non miserable Father's Day for me since he passed. I do hope it is a quicker process for you.

Bruce from Can. · Jun 17, 2019

My Dad has been gone 14 years, and my mom 20. My wife?s mother passed 23 years ago and her father is now gone 32 years, at just 64 years of age. Our folks never got to see our current farms, or really get to know their grand children. It has been tough sledding, particularly for my wife. But we are left with no choice bu to except reality, honour their memories, and keep moving forward.

SweetFeet · Jun 17, 2019

It does get easier. However, the first few years are tough - especially on certain days like birthdays and holidays, the date of a person's passing/funeral... and sometimes just on a particularly beautiful spring or summer day.

Mike(NEOhio) · Jun 17, 2019

It will get easier but will take about a year. My dad's been gone fifteen years and I think about him a lot. Mom is still hanging in going on ninety-six.

Steve@Advance · Jun 17, 2019

I lost dad December 23rd '94.

We were never really close, always had our disagreements.

But I still think of him, I try to concentrate on the good times, dismiss the bad.

I still have vivid dreams about him. Funny thing, the dreams are always good dreams. I guess that's a positive I can hang onto.

It will get better, life goes on.

big tee · Jun 17, 2019

John--I don't know if it ever gets easier-There are so many memories and things that trip these memories. After my Dad died Mom had a farm sale and the stuff I bought on the sale still jogs a lot memories when I use it. One of things might seem slight but I bought his 18 in. Diamond brand adjustable wrench. It hangs on the wall of my shop but every time I use it, it brings back memories! His Deere 4630 tractor-He farmed with it-I farmed with it, and now my Son owns it-He says it will never leave the family. The old saying--Time heals all things is not true for me--It is just a Band-Aid--Thanks---Tee

Determined · Jun 17, 2019

Nice mess of fish there, going out to a local lake to try our luck today.

My Dad has been gone for 24 years, all I can say is;

It gets worse before it gets better

But rest assured it does get better

Your memories of loved ones will always be in your heart.

Over time you will learn to think about good memories and smile instead of dwelling on their passing and frowning.

God bless

David G · Jun 17, 2019

It does not get easier, you just learn to live with it, look at your kids and grandkids, as your parents live on in them.

crate78 · Jun 17, 2019

Same with me.

My father and I just weren't ever on the same page about anything. Things went well until I became a teenager. I was able to talk freely about it with my mother, and with input from her I was able to see that my father was simply too insecure himself to be up to the challenge of another adult male in the household. He responded by ridiculing me when he wasn't ignoring me.

I played football for all four years in high school, and he never went to a single game. If I had a home game before I was old enough to drive, he'd drop me off at the school and go to a tavern and drink beer till the game was over.

Later when I was heavily involved in stock car racing, he never showed any interest the cars, nor did he ever go to a race, even though he himself was very mechanically inclined.

Looking back, I can see where my maternal grandfather had far more influence on my life than my father did.

r.w.b. · Jun 17, 2019

Lost my dad in 79,it never goes away,you learn to live and bear it. Mom left when i was 5.dad did his best .i was 25 when he died.

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