way off topic: coppertop kid again...

DENNIS MIN · May 7, 2018

All,

To those that have followed...well I got a call from outta the blue. Turns out that I was called from an employment person, I was named as a reference.

This young buck had the nerve to list me as a reference, without the kindness of telling me. I was caught flat-footed at work. Of course, I did not get angry, I gave honest answers, gave her what I thought about coppertop, and figured he'd be better served when I am truthful. He's a good young man, is good with equipment, has a knack for hydraulics, motion, engines, etc.

I am not mad. I'd rather be alerted as to when I am a reference, I did tell him such when he drifted in. He looked like he knew better.

D.

buickanddeere · May 7, 2018

I may have to pay more attention to your copper-top kid experiences . My very blond son and his carrot orange fiancé are expecting a child in September . I had a ginger grand father and several ginger cousins. mrs b@d also had a ginger grandfather and several ginger cousins. . As we are not on the appalachian mountains the grand fathers are two different men.

DENNIS MIN · May 7, 2018

bucikanddeere,

I did not intend any disparage, but way back when, I said he was red-headed, well I received some grief for that. This rascal I have known for better than a decade-plus. He was a youngster, then a teenager, then a young man. I've spoken of him a few times, and for a good long time we didn't speak much.

However, he shows up every now and again. We have good talks, over a cold coke. I still enjoy his company.

D.

jwmfarms · May 7, 2018

You just had to put down the good, hard working folks that live in the Appalachian
Mountains, by insinuating that they are all a bunch of inbred hicks, didn't you. Of
course, we all know that nothing like that has ever happened up in the Great White North!

DENNIS MIN · May 7, 2018

JWMFarms,

There's always someone, some where, insinuating something. I live in northern Minnesota, not far from a monastery, and let the rumors run wild from that information. I am not a victim of anything, nor a contributor.

D.

greenmech · May 7, 2018

We all hope he gets a good job. Good that you still see him. Ron MN

rrc300 u · May 7, 2018

He should have asked you, I agree. At that point of getting the call and having no notice I would say give him the reference he deserves whether it be good or bad. The very next day call that lad up and give him an earful for not giving notice or asking if you would vouch for him.

Kansasredneck · May 7, 2018

Doesn't matter who you are, go back far enough on the family tree and you will find a brother married to a sister, kissing cousins, and other relations we consider taboo. Such is life among the human race, we are all descendants of Noah, and by extension, Adam.

Moonlite37 · May 7, 2018

I have ben here for several years with at least two user names. I have always admired both you and this boy. He would show up and always give you just a bit of free labor and you taught him a few things. In own case, by father was 52 years old when I was born and had no mechanical skills. I would visit neighbors and work for a couple hours and learn a bit at each visit.

coshoo · May 7, 2018

At least you weren't in the position I was- a woman called me and asked if I'd give her a reference, and I didn't remember who she was! After much prompting, it turned out she had worked with me at Farm Credit about 20 years before, for a short time, before she was fired. She was totally incompetent, as I recall. I told her since I had not been her supervisor and was not in a position to comment on her work, I couldn't give her a reference. Better no reference than a bad one.

Bob · May 8, 2018

(quoted from post at 17:53:51 05/07/18) All,

To those that have followed...well I got a call from outta the blue. Turns out that I was called from an employment person, I was named as a reference.

This young buck had the nerve to list me as a reference, without the kindness of telling me. I was caught flat-footed at work. Of course, I did not get angry, I gave honest answers, gave her what I thought about coppertop, and figured he'd be better served when I am truthful. He's a good young man, is good with equipment, has a knack for hydraulics, motion, engines, etc.

I am not mad. I'd rather be alerted as to when I am a reference, I did tell him such when he drifted in. He looked like he knew better.

D.

"We have good talks, over a cold coke. I still enjoy his company."

I can't figure out or understand the reason for or the tone of the original post????

If he hasn't wronged you, as his "mentor" you should be honored that he listed you as a reference.

Or is there a bad side/more than you are telling us?

Keith Molden · May 8, 2018

Now, a couple of you guys gave B@D a little grief about his comment about grandfathers and Appalachia. Less than 20 years and possibly still one of the questions on the West Virginia application for a marriage license was "Are you brother and sister". No I'm not making this up and you can call any county seat in WV and ask therm. We camped in WV and our youngest wanted to get married at the Campground & that question was on the application. So be nice to each other, you just never know. Just some states are a little more open and honest than others. Keith

1946 BN IHC · May 8, 2018

To those who need a plausible refferance some time; here is one I read about a time ago. A previous employer was asked by a respective employer what a perspctive worker, employee was like and work/ adility and habits. The orriginal employer's responce=== as a perspective emplyies personality, work habits and sutability, I wouldn't give them a second thought.
This says loads yet dosen't say anything incriminating at the same time.
I thimk I read that in one of readers digest aside coment collums a while back, years back.
Just a rememberance to mind from reading the above writings.
Wm.

Richard G. · May 8, 2018

I have been in the same situation. It did not bother me one bit.
Had the FBI come by one time for a reference for a boy that worked with me. Also had State Law Enforcement come by for another co worker.
They let you know they are coming so you will be there.
Also had a nuclear plant call me about a friend of our son.
I always feel honored to be chosen to do this.
Richard in NW SC

steve706 · May 8, 2018

The Lucknow area is pretty well known for really close kinship, the rest of Bruce cty is likely the same....

DENNIS MIN · May 8, 2018

Bob, and others,

I am not angry. I just did not want to say anything that could have been misunderstood by his (potentially) new employer. I was at work, and taking a call on your phone when not on break is frowned upon, then the stammering begins. I occasionally stutter, which surprises don't help.

Sorry for the confusion, but a quick call on his part would have made the difference in my ability to respond.

D.

buickanddeere · May 8, 2018

(quoted from post at 09:26:03 05/08/18) The Lucknow area is pretty well known for really close kinship, the rest of Bruce cty is likely the same....

Back in the horse and buggy days . Courting took place within a 5 block radius and attended the same school or same church or the same general store etc .
Actually around Lucknow , East Wawanosh, Weat Wawanosh , Ashfeild , Huron Township, Kinloss Township , Kincardine Township , Bruce Township and east to Kitchener .It is all over run with inbred Almish and Mennonite.
We have a few 2nd , 3rd and 4th cousins are common to my parents but not inbred . The people we bought our piano from . The wife is related to my Father’s side and the husband is related to mrs b&d’s Mother . Makes thier son about a 3rd or 4th cousin to both of us.

buickanddeere · May 8, 2018

Steve, you going to the Lucknow reunion this summer ?

Traditional Farmer · May 9, 2018

I've had a few people list me as a reference but if they know me very well they know I'm going to tell it like I see it.

steve706 · May 9, 2018

Will be going to Kincardine that weekend so will likely stop in on the way through.

buickanddeere · May 9, 2018

(quoted from post at 17:10:11 05/09/18) Will be going to Kincardine that weekend so will likely stop in on the way through.

Should have a brew at the Bruce Inn or something ?

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