Just have to say

X-Y switch · Nov 29, 2016

I must be one lucky, privileged, so and so. Just read many posts about how rude everyone, especially young people are. My handicapped wife and I live here in eastern Mo. and do our shopping in Warrenton, Washington, and St. Peters (mid rivers mall). We are always so thankful for the kindness shown us by complete strangers. I am always impressed by young people that assist us, hold doors, offer help in putting the wheel chair in the trunk.
You people that are always offended by those rude people- Do you ever show them that you friendly? Hello, how are you?

Philip d · Nov 29, 2016

I think there are more kind and polite people given
the chance to be so its just the extremely rude ones
that catch our attention and get our nickers in a
knot.

fixerupper · Nov 29, 2016

I must be privileged person too. In my neck of the woods I see many more polite folks than rude ones. A month ago when my 93 year old step mom took a tumble on the sidewalk a couple of high school kids ran to her and carefully helped her get back on her feet. Then they walked along side her holding on to her when she walked back to the house. When Marilyn was pushing a walker around after her hip surgery I didn't have to open business doors for her often because someone else would beat me to it.

steve_in_mo · Nov 29, 2016

You know what they say - "What goes around comes around."
We are relatively able-bodied and I have pretty much the same
experience as you, here in central Missouri. There are some
people that could not be happy to get a free pony because
it might make a mess somewhere.

old · Nov 29, 2016

I have found it is a 50/50 thing now days. You go to a store and 50% of the people show some respect and do not hog the idles and 50% do etc etc etc. I to live in Missouri and have lived here since July of 1980 and I can say this it is not getting better and more and more I see people be they old or young show little to no respect and do not care if they get in the way or waste your time or just flat out block you when you try to shop

JayinNY · Nov 29, 2016

That's what iv found, wether it be driving , shopping ect, some are older folks that have no manners, I'm shocked by that.. My brother and I think if we were punks maybe we would act like that, but not folks 20 years or so older than us.

old · Nov 29, 2016

Ya now days it seem those who knew better no longer remember they knew better and do not care.

Traditional Farmer · Nov 30, 2016

Its sort of like when a fellow moved to a new place and he asked how if the people at the new place were easy to get along with and the person he asked said did you get along with the people
where you came from.The new fellow says no they were hard to get along with and the reply was then you'll probably find these people hard to get along with too.Generally get what you give.

farmerwithmutt · Nov 30, 2016

If I see a young person that's nice ,
polite and helpful I always complement them
and there parents. It's not hard to say
there isn't many like you today your
parents must have raised you right. I did
have one surprise when a girl stopped and
talked to me she told me a little about
herself and how much of her life she was
raised by her grandparents her birth
parents weren't the best. I was amazed at
what she had overcome in her life to get
what she became.
One other frequently heard comment is when
you praise a parent for how helpful there
child is and the reply is a weary I wish
they was that way all the time !! But then
you see them smile knowing that there
efforts to raise the child correctly is
noticed and appreciated.

sms · Nov 30, 2016

There are good and bad everywhere, I've encountered both. It brings a smile to
my face to see kind considerate people. As others have said I think you reap
what you sow, just a good morning to a stranger or an offer of a hand can
change a persons demeanor.

cuby · Nov 30, 2016

But then again your next door mieghbor that you have known for yrs & yrs.that you have neighbored with can stab you in the back if things dont go their way.

Speaking from experience.

W_B · Nov 30, 2016

I follow a young guy occasionally on YouTube who vlogs daily about his life, friends and his family. He's only 20 but is such a kind and generous guy... buys food for the homeless and searches them out on the street to give it to them, treats his girlfriend like a goddess, gets expensive stuff for his family (bought his Dad a Z06 Corvetter for his 50th b'day!) and really appreciates his fans and subscribers. Oh yea, he makes a ton of $$ from his vids (I saw one estimate of about $500,000 a year from YouTube alone). But he's not an ___hole because of it. I have hope for the younger generation.

DPittman · Nov 30, 2016

The problem in our society with rudeness and impoliteness most of the time stems from improper upbringing. Too long parents have relied on other entities to teach their children the things that should be taught at home. The end result is this discussion l was raised to conduct myself properly in public regardless of the setting or the people I was interacting with. It doesn't matter a persons theology, ethnic group, how much they have or don't have, manners is manners, period. Nothing in our society will change until parents as a whole take back ownership of their children and teach the things we were taught.

PJH · Nov 30, 2016

As you pointed out, a lot of it has to do with our attitude. Do we look for the good in others, or do we look for the bad? If we try hard enough, we can always find something to be down in the mouth about. It takes a lot of energy to be a full time grouch.

Goose · Nov 30, 2016

That was used as an example occasionally in the Marine Corps when you transferred to a new duty station.

Whether fun and easy to get along with, or a bunch of mean old grouches, you'd probably find the civilian population at your new duty station about the same as at your last one.

dr sportster · Nov 30, 2016

I'm always looking to crack jokes . I call people sir. I might smile entering a business. I rarely feel anyone has been rude to me .

rrlund · Nov 30, 2016

It helps that you live in the friendliest place on Earth. I never went anywhere down there that somebody didn't shove a chair at me and want me to sit down and talk. I wanted to get a hand off a mannequin and duct tape it to the steering wheel. Every car I met on the road,the driver waved.

Philip d · Nov 30, 2016

Ya I can say the same. A neighbour up the road and my now ex wife had an affair and I never found out untill she moved in with him. I was obviously upset at the time,my Dad told me he did me a favour taking that trash off my hands and he was right. I forgave them both years later and we can actually have civil conversations regarding the children now. The best part of it all is I now have a wonderful wife that treats me with love compassion and respect.

WellWorn · Nov 30, 2016

On those rare occasions when I get to town to shop, I always smile and make small talk with the employees, usually leaving them with a smile of their own, and they remember me, even if it's months before I get back.

When I take a tractor down the road, I wave at all the other vehicles (usually all 2 or 3 of them over the course of 3-6 miles), and most of them wave back. I wave at anyone out in a yard. I wave at the houses I pass where I know the folks, even if there is no one in sight. If someone is out and time allows, I stop and chew the fat for a few minutes. It's a good neighborly thing to do.

When in my driveway or walking through the front yard, I wave at any vehicle going by. One of them finally stopped and said HI last week. It only took a few years of a friendly wave.

I learned these practices from the farmer in the family.

Not that correlation makes for causation, but a theory could be posited that politeness is in short supply because farmers are in short supply. Thomas Jefferson would likely agree.

RBoots · Nov 30, 2016

Wellworn, you sound just like me lol. If you
lived across the road, we'd never get
anything done, spend too much time waving
back and forth. Makes me mad when I'm at
work and I wave to someone to be friendly
and they purposely won't wave back. I pretty
much recognize everyone and their vehicles
in my territory I work in, and wave anyway,
even if I know they won't wave because they
don't like me, just because I might not do
my job the way THEY would do it (most have
no idea anyway)

Paul in MN · Nov 30, 2016

I'll fully agree with this!

Paul in MN

X-Y switch · Nov 30, 2016

Thanks for the replies, the pros and the cons, but that's my story and I'm stickin' to it.

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