You posted a thread here a couple of days ago about how others dealt with 'another' man in their childs life.
I thought about you this afternoon.
I divorced my wife in 1986/1987. My son was three years old at that time. It was a bitter divorce. She had a good/dirty lawyer and mine was easy-going.
I fought for and was awarded joint custody. Never said a bad word about her nor her new husband in front of my son(I looked at it as she was now somebodies else's problem). I got to raise him after she married her new boyfriend. They had two kids. They were always welcome into my house and they visited often.'
I became friends to her new kids and also the husband. They eventually divorced and she went through two more husbands. I can say I am friends with all of them.
Anyway, today her son "from other marriage" brought his wife up to my place to shoot some guns. They know they are always welcome. Heck, for the past few deer seasons her 'Ex" and 'now adult children' come to my place to deer hunt for the past several years.
I find no use for bitterness and try to not hold grudges. I always looked at her 'husbands' as someone extra to love my son. You can't have too many people to care about your kids.
BTW, she just moved about one-thousand miles away to marry her 5th husband.
I thought about you this afternoon.
I divorced my wife in 1986/1987. My son was three years old at that time. It was a bitter divorce. She had a good/dirty lawyer and mine was easy-going.
I fought for and was awarded joint custody. Never said a bad word about her nor her new husband in front of my son(I looked at it as she was now somebodies else's problem). I got to raise him after she married her new boyfriend. They had two kids. They were always welcome into my house and they visited often.'
I became friends to her new kids and also the husband. They eventually divorced and she went through two more husbands. I can say I am friends with all of them.
Anyway, today her son "from other marriage" brought his wife up to my place to shoot some guns. They know they are always welcome. Heck, for the past few deer seasons her 'Ex" and 'now adult children' come to my place to deer hunt for the past several years.
I find no use for bitterness and try to not hold grudges. I always looked at her 'husbands' as someone extra to love my son. You can't have too many people to care about your kids.
BTW, she just moved about one-thousand miles away to marry her 5th husband.