Dad

fixerupper · May 13, 2014

Since yesterday afternoon I've been going through a situation many of you who are in my age range can relate to. My 89 year old dad came out to the farm yesterday as usual but when he was going to leave he lost his balance and went down hard on the cement. To make a long story short I'm now sitting in a hospital room watching him wake up from surgery to put a plate and screws in his broken leg. There is nothing life threatening going on and someday he will be walking again, but it's been quite an interesting 30 hours with five hours of sleep. Tomorrow my stepmother and I go to the nursing home to see if they have a room for him for awhile. Kind of tough to see a man I remember as being younger and strong be in this condition but everything looks good so far. He played basketball on the town team till he was 32 years old and now, 57 years later the smallest thing will trip him up. Not begging for prayers though they are welcome if you wish. He's brave, jokes with the nurses and thanks them for helping him. Just need to vent. Jim

Greg K · May 13, 2014

Hope it all works out good for you. Like you said,
fortunately it is not severe.

ray hofstetter · May 13, 2014

Sounds just like my dad, he's 90. Our thoughts and prayers
are with you.

David G · May 13, 2014

Prayers to you and your dad.

James Howell · May 13, 2014

Know exactly what you mean; hope all goes well for your dad.

SweetFeet · May 13, 2014

Fixerupper,
Prayers for good healing for your dad. Great that he
has a positive spirit.

Prayers for your mom and for you and your family in
this time.

Steve@Advance · May 13, 2014

Prayers for your Dad, you, and your family.

Just got my Mom out of a nursing home/rehab today.
She was only in for a short rehab stay following
an illness.

Learned some things about nursing home rules I
didn't know! Like it's up to the resident
physician and the administration as to when they
can leave.

Mom was miserable, was ready to go, we were ready
to take her to our house, took a week to get her
out! We were told if we took her out Medicare and
her supplemental insurance would not pay anything,
we would be responsible for the entire bill. Had
we not been persistent and insistent they would
have kept her well beyond her scheduled rehab
stay.

Paul from MI · May 13, 2014

Hopefully they have a good rehab facility where he can recover. Never easy seeing the decline in physical abilities of our parents.

Larry NEIL · May 13, 2014

Glad your Dad has such a great attitude, cause it's everything. You are a great Son to be there with him. Prayers sent!

farmerwithmutt · May 13, 2014

Prayers my aunt farmed alone when she broke her hip she
was to be in rehab but fences to fix and critters to take care
of so she did as little as possible and back to work. she paid
for that down the road get the rehab put up with docs and
do it right and take care

fixerupper · May 13, 2014

Steve, I'm taking a crash course on Medicare rules like you are. My sis, who went through this with her father in law gave me some quick pointers so I went to the hospital office and got a printout of some of the rules. Dad needs to be in the hospital three full days, not counting the dismissal day, to qualify for Medicare paying for the nursing home for his recovery time. I know the hospital knows the rules but I am going to chat with them anyway. We are never done learning, that's for sure. Jim

Goose · May 13, 2014

Best wishes for your dad!

On the sleep bit, when my wife had emergence quadruple bypass surgery a few years ago, by the time it was over and I got home from the hospital I'd gone 40 hours without sleep.

I said at the time it was nice to know I could still do it if I had to, but I wouldn't want to do it every week.

MarkWV · May 13, 2014

praying for your dad and you. Mine is 87 had back
surgery in january, set at hospital for 3 days with
him, know how you feel. Get rest , he will need you
to be there for him

ShadetreeRet · May 13, 2014

Prayers for both your dad and yourself.

gmccool · May 13, 2014

I"ll be thinking about you & ALL your family.

dcarp · May 13, 2014

Prayers sent for your Dad, yourself and all his family.

Cheesehead Fred · May 13, 2014

My Mom made two cycles through rehab, (broken hip and broken ankle) and just checked out of this world at 91. Hope you and your Dad can make the most of his time down here. Good Luck, and you got our prayers for a speedy recovery!

jennifer408 · May 13, 2014

sorry about your dads misfortune, im glad he's in good spirits. good thing he's got a great son, he's gonna need you for awhile.

howdy1960 · May 13, 2014

Very good he's in good spirits. My Dad was a jokester and almost always smiling right up to the day before he crossed over from M.S. at 75

big jt · May 13, 2014

Thoughts and prayers from our house.

Your Dad is a gentleman in the truest sense of the
word.

jt

sms · May 14, 2014

Best wishes for your dad and the family and friends that help.

Anonymous-0 · May 14, 2014

Sorry to hear ,best wishes from nj

John B. · May 14, 2014

Sorry to hear this about your dad! Praying for a
speedy recovery.

kruser · May 14, 2014

Sorry to hear that Jim.
Thoughts and prayers from central Illinois.
Jim2

old popper · May 14, 2014

Sorry to hear about your Dad, Jim. Wishing him a speedy recovery.
Dale

rrlund · May 14, 2014

Sorry. That was the beginning of the end for my dad. He tripped over a cord in the garage and broke his hip. I tried to get him up,but he said it must be broke. He never really got past it. They put the wrong sized ball and socket in him,had to replace it,he finally had a stroke after all of it.
I'm praying you have better luck.

Billy Shafer · May 14, 2014

Jokes with the nurses. I think you should keep an
eye on him. He will be chasing them soon enough.
Hope he gets home soon.

BANDITFARMER · May 14, 2014

Last September I got a call from mom at 11 pm saying dad thinks he needs to go to the hospital, I'm on my way. 2 1/2 to 3 weeks later he was out of the hospital from a blood clot in his knee and 2 months later dad was home from the nursing home and rehab. Dad is 76 and has CMT and walks with a cane and worries me still as he is wobbly, So I watch him like a mother hen when we are at the barn working.

I know that you are going through right now and it will get better and easer with time, Just keep positive and take it one day at a time. I hope your dad has a speedy recovery and gets back to his normal self doing what he likes to do. You and your family are in my prayers and know your not alone in this time of need, Were all pulling for you and yours. Bandit

fixerupper · May 14, 2014

Whew, thank you for all the kind comments. I didn't expect this much response, makes me a little misty. We can always find a bright side somewhere. For me the bright side is the fact that it is too wet to plant and I am pretty well caught up in the shop so I don't have much of a ball and chain to drag. My sis will be here tomorrow so she can take over with any dad- related business when it does dry out enough to plant. Dad feels bad that I have to take a little extra time for him, but like I said before, he carried me so many years ago so now it's payback time. All it's costing me is a little sleep and some light mental anguish. Jim

mb58 · May 14, 2014

Sure sorry to hear about your dad's accident. Hope he recovers well. I"m blessed to have my dad with me. He is 76 and still going strong. Checks the cows everyday and we cut and bale hay together every summer. He fixs fence, puts out hay, etc. He has had one very light heart attack 5 years ago and was up in no time. Broke his leg a year later when he fell chasing a cow. Gripped the whole time he was recovering because he had to sit with the leg proped up. I can tell he"s slowed down a lot but he still can put in a lot of work. Hope I can do as much when I'm that age.

ndfarmer · May 14, 2014

Jim, Sorry to here about your fathers mishap. He might have become dizzy or light headed before he fell. Breaking a leg can be very serious as fat tissue from the bone marrow can leak into your blood and cause an embolism. Glad he is doing well. Its so nice that you care so much about your dad. Good luck to both of you. Richard

GeneMO · May 14, 2014

Dang, sorry to hear that. As an aside, is your dad still the owner of the farm? If not, then contact your insurance agent about Medical payments to others under your farmowners policy. Generally there is a sum of money there or under your liability ins. that may pay his medical bills/deductible, regardless of other insurance.

Worth checking into.

Gene

fixerupper · May 14, 2014

Gene that never entered my mind. This happened on land owned by me so it might be worth a visit with my insurance agent. First thing I think about is some insurance company coming after me for having a crack in the feed floor he fell on, or something like that. Jim

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