Inlaws

Lots of talk about parents. On a lighter note,,, anyone like their inlaws?? If I keep 300+ miles between my farm and theirs we get along fine. Not sure how I found such a good woman living with these nut jobs. God bless the high fuel prices and slippery roads. A visit once a year seems almost to much. sometimes thought it would be cool to have two wives, then learned I would have to have two motherinlaws!

Not if you marry sisters.

Lol, I just posted that below, I also wonder how my wife turned out so great being raised by such, uh, I don't know what to call them. Now I get along with them fine, since I don't talk to them anymore. Best thing I ever did, wish I did it 11 years ago!

Hey it says in the Bible that you CAN NOT have 2 wives. It says, "man can serve but one master".
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When I 1st got married my Father IN law tried running me. My dad would tell me "you married into that family, you can't alienate them". Well I put up with it about 4 months. Then I blew up on my FIL. After that we got along great. He treated me with far greater respect than he treated the other son/daughter in laws who always caved into his demands. My MIL is just a nice person and easy to get along with. She allows me to get away with stuff that she will not tolerate from he on kids. I think that's because all 5 of my BILs/SILs have to have a lot of help while my wife and I haven't had to have any.

Rick

Rick

My inlaws were the greatest. Loved them like my own parents, and they loved me like one of their own. Sure miss them. (both mine and hers.)
Still have her brothers and sisters and their spouses and kids. They"re a great bunch as well.

My Father-in-Law died 4 months before we got married. It seemed that we got along, but I never was sure! My Mother-in-Law died in 2003. She was a very strong headed woman, kinda hard to please! I did always want to please her though, just not so sure I ever did! I have a Son-in-Law now who seems to have no desire to please us. We have nothing in common. I don't even understand that not trying thing! I figured it was important to keep the wife happy by working at keeping her parents happy!

My wife's parents treated me like I was their own. Absolutely no complaints - ever.

We get along just great. They haven't ticked me off once since they died.

Gene

I had great parents, married a fantastic woman and had the best in-laws. FIL died about 6 yrs after we were married and MIL re-married a guy with a few bucks. FIL was a binge drinker, but when sober (most of the time) nicest most helpful guy in the world.
MIL was a party animal, loved Her to pieces and couldn't keep up with Her. I really miss all of them dearly, including my wife.

Question--What's the difference between a Mother-in-law and an out-law? Answer--An out-law is wanted.

My in-laws are both great. I couldn't have done better if I could have chosen them. They are both very thoughtful people and I will miss them when they are gone. Bob

My in-laws were great I lived next door for 45 years, couldn't have been better.

My MIL was nicer to me than my mother. My FIL died before we were married. He could have been a challenge. My two SILs are the big problem. When MIL was living things were okay. She helped raise the one SIL oldest child along with us while she worked. Then the Jim Baker born again religion came along and things went to hell. MIL died, we weren't to see their kids, and did not farm togather any more. And there is much more to this story than you want to know about. I say if you are a good person, you do it 7 days a week, not just on Sunday where evrybody sees you go to church and wear it on your sleeve the rest of the time.

My in laws are great. They have helped us out a lot. We got married young at 19, but right away my FIL saw that I would do whatever it took to look after his daughter. My MIL doesn't always see eye to eye with me, she wishes I would quit farming, but she knows I won't back down from experience. FIL understands wanting to farm. When I have had questions I have usually gone to my FIL because he gave better advice than my own father. My parents are the weird ones.

Mine were super. A lot of good memories, and we miss them. Wife would get mad because she said they thought more of me than they did her. Not really. FIL helped me built many rod of fence as well as other jobs. He was an excellent cook as well. That's the part I miss the most. I'm still trying to duplicate some of the things he made, but just don't have his cooking talent.

Do you know the difference between an in-law and an outlaw? An outlaw is wanted!

I had a good MIL and FIL but they bragged me so much around by BILs that they became envious of me. Wife's brothers measure success by what you have but make no effort to gain knowledge or money

Same with my in-laws except I have 700 miles between us. Basically good people but if I spend more than a couple days with them they get pretty overbearing. FIL is the worst when he visits here. He is used to being the boss on his farm and he can't seem to get it thru his head that the land and way I farm here is much different than on his farm. I live in the rolling hills of SE MN and he is a flatlander from Michigan. Many of my fields have limestone shelves and are well drained yet I still have to listen to his constant recommendations that I need to tile! I'd like to see tile put thru solid rock! MIL on the other hand is a nice person and we get along well.

MIL died 20 years before I married her daughter. 1st Step MIL was pretty cool and we got along. 2nd step mom was a PITA. She claimed to be the Great Grand Niece of Devil Anse Hatfield, after meeting her I understood why the McCoys liked shooting Hatfields. Father in Law was one of the nicest men I knew. He drove Bombers during WWII, I was a Captain in the Air Force when I married his little girl we got along well and I think I was more upset when he passed than when my own dad did.

Although both are deceased, they were great while alive. My brother and sister inlaws are great also.

I wonder if deep down your wife feels the same way about your parents.

Mine could not have asked for better, just wish they could still be with us.

my wife left college to marry me. her folks thought she could have done better. in spite of that they were pretty decent to me. every time we had a child, my mother in law would come stay for a week or so. we had 4 kids. every time mil visited I got terrible headaches. I thought to my self ' I really don't like this woman". 15 years after my wife died, while at fil's 90th birthday party I found out mil was allergic to caffeine, and brought her own de-caf coffee when she visited. my late wife would have got a laugh out of that.

My inlaws are both gone, they treated me as if I was their own. They made it known to the rest of the siblings how they felt about me. A couple of my wife's brothers were a bit jealous to say the least. The inlaw's would ask them for help and they would always have some excuse. The inlaws were farmers and raised cattle. That is what my folks did too. I would drop what I was doing to help them and vice versa. They were great with our kids, they were always getting the kids (four boys) and taking them out to their place. Taught them a lot. As far as my wife of 37 years, I honestly can not think of a time that I regretted marrying her. She is not high maintenance, down to earth, has common sense and was raised right. Sometimes I wonder what she sees in me, just a great caring person.
In fact my MIL about a year before she pasted, insisted we trade houses and she would give us the farm house, out buildings and about 8 acres of the home place in trade for our house in town. She really wanted us to trade, but we figured it would cause us a lot of trouble with the others so didn't do it. I think it actually hurt my MIL we didn't trade. But that's life I guess.

My inlaws were great. Nana was a bit of a nut and he was moody even before the strokes, but I love them and respect them.

My first wife's mother was great should have married her instead of her daughter

My MIL is a gem, couldn't do enough to help us out when we needed it. She helped my wife (her daughter) to get a job at the big company where she worked and helped me get on there when I got out of college. MIL retired from there, we are both still here. She watches our dog and comes over to feed the cats and the llamas when we travel, although I get worried about her being in the barn by herself (she's 78 now). She's close enough she can come over to let service people in, needless to say she has a key to our house, and us to hers. I told the wife if it came down to it she could come live with us when she can't stay by herself.

FIL is another story. He's a gruff old cuss, former construction union president and business agent. But he loves his daughter and would do anything for her and me. Beloved by his trades men and women, when he turned 80 we had a little party for him and lots of guys he knew from then came to see him. He got me a job while I was going to college in the trade. He's disabled now, had a stroke a few year back. We banter back and forth, mostly about politics, and he has some good Korean War era stories about the Air Force (like his crew dropping an atomic bomb on the runway, it fell out of the bomb bay). We like a lot of the same TV shows so sometimes I'll go over and we'll watch a Pickers or Pawn Stars, etc. marathon, the women hate that stuff. Gave me some guns when I had a varmit problem, just said take them and let him know how they fire (some he never used). My biggest issue with him is he doesn't treat my MIL very nice, always barking at her getting her upset. I get on him about it but doesn't do any good. I've told him he better treat her nice because if she passes first I'm putting his butt in a nursing home, the nice nasty one down the road from us. He yells and grumbles about that, but gives him something to think about.

All in all, I guess I wouldn't trade either one.

I've had two MIL's, first one was one very nice lady, but after almost twenty years our marriage failed...after the MIL had sadly passed away. Second one rode a broom, bareback, and had a lot to do with that marriage failing too.

My MIL and FIL were fine people who treated me well. I wish my FIL had lived longer, because he and I were good friends who had lots more stories to tell than we got to. My MIL lived with my wife and I for a couple of years before she had to go into the nursing home. I got along with her just fine, but she and my wife didn"t do nearly as well. But I suspect that they never did have that great of a relationship.

On the other hand, my wife has a sister that I just cannot stand! Luckily that sister has very little contact with us.

I wish my Mother and my Wife had got along better. But they didn"t and probably never will.

Inlaws: an interesting set of relationships!