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Dad in Nursing Home

RBnSC

RBnSC

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Hospice arranged for Dad to spend 11 days in home. Not feeling good about it. My Wife left him yesterday in tears He said He just wanted to be with us. Going this morning to be with him. It is killing me.
Ron
 
i know the feeling been there way to many times BUT you can now spend qualty time with him knowing he will get care over and above what you can.check out and see if anybody is there that he knows track down farmers ( got on the wrong end of if they had to do it the way we did it!) and trust me 2 f armers get talkin it will be hard but if you work it right it wont be to painfull as the saying goes as one door closes anthor opens is he able to travel? stop in and take him for a drive and if you can toss somebody in the back dont think what i cant do but what i can do me and one aunt spent hours and yes she repeat herself but you should have seen the smile when i would forget something i knew she had the answer for take care and god bless woops forgot a good one took baby calf in once big hit everybody smiling that day and no acidents
 
Ron,
I hope that you and your wife can be at peace with it - even if it turns to full time at the care center.

Just know that you are doing the best that you can do... and God bless you both for all the care you have given your parents already.
 
my dad is getting there at 86, will be hard when/if i have to do it. God knows your heart, visit as often as you can so youll have no regrets, praying for your family
 
will catch flax here but i"m up to it; at some given point a nursing home is the place to be. fil currently has round the clock care sitters in home and the entire families lives revolves around him. whole house literally turned into a hospital like setting with bed stored on front porch and a hospital bed brought in complete with bed side potty, oxygen machine. furniture rearranged for walkers and wheelchairs. 24 hr. care givers still require daily visits there for all kinds of reasons; medical, personal, house cleaning, shopping and staffing problems. aging children with physical restraints are endangered due to assisting with the lifting and moving of him. all the while every thing is focused on dad who becoming more and more babied and petted and acts accordingly. it"s not only his life that is affected it is the entire families lives that are affected. take it from me; nursing homes are a blessing.
 
All those things are true except we put the extra bed upstairs. Still hurts to know that He is calling out for Me to help him because He doesn't know where he is.
Ron
 
Ron, I"m sorry. did not mean to sound so callous. mom passed this last may while in a nursing home so I have experience with all the emotions. nursing homes are what they are but; total, unfettered, unmeasured and constant focusing on one person made my fil and mil into nearly impossible people to deal with. emotionally and physically draining. I wish the best for you, family and especially your dad.
 
I am a nurse in long term care. Check the place out and show up when you are not expected. Most caregivers truly love what they do but there are some who just want a paycheck. They don't last in a well run facility. If you see something wrong, go to the director of nursing. If that doesn't work, utilize your ombudsman. You and your dad are in my prayers.
 
It hurts. I watched a friend spend a few months taking care of his dying father. He was a only child, so no other help. It consumed every free minute he had. Soon he started getting sick from nervousness and no sleep. When he finally contacted the nursing home they told him not to bring much stuff cuz his father would be dead by the end of the week. He got ------ but they were right. It took about 6 months but he admitted to me one day that he thanked God that it was over when his dad passed. The constant grind of wondering if he was doing something right or wrong was tearing him apart physically. Those last few months were not the memories he wanted of his father.
 
In a nursing home you quit being a care giver, and get to be a Son again.
Just think of all the people there who may see family only once a year.
 
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