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Son was Intolerant Yesterday at School

RBnSC

RBnSC

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My 13 year old Son was Not tolerant of a Bully picking on a friend. He stepped in the middle To stop him and ended up knocking him down twice and after ducking a punch and punched him in the mouth before the Gym teacher broke it up. I don't know if we will hear any more about it as the teacher made them apologize and did not report it to the office. But even if there is some sort of punishment I am very proud of Him.
Ron
 
I don't think your kid ment to harm anyone. He was just swinging his arms and the other kid got in the way. TWICE.

I am proud of him also.
 

He may have to keep put'n him on the ground till he does not get back up... Its called respect and sometimes you have to earn it.... Least that was the way it worked in my time BTW it was always worth the suspension...
 
Would be a lot better if the teacher was man enough to do something about it so your son didn't have to.

But good for him for doing the right thing.
 
Good for him. But if the bully's parents complain both the teacher and your son will be in trouble.

Rick
 
I teacher who did NOT report it? Amazing!
Last spring my 8th grade (at the time) son took in a rubber band gun to school without my wife and I knowing about it. It was one that he had picked up at a garage sale, was home-made on a band saw, had two old clothes pins glued on the top, and was probably 30 years old. It had very faded gray paint. It hardly even resembled a gun. Two female teachers saw it, went BALLISTIC, and gave him the riot act about bringing guns to school. The male principal had to put on a good show and act stern, but he was laughing about it inside.
There is a time to be stern at a kid and there is a time to just tell him to put it back in the book bag and don't take it out again.
 
Same thing happened with my son a few years back in grade school... bully picking on his friend. From the reports I got, my son (the much smaller of the 2 boys) stepped in, got shoved, then proceeded to deliver a pounding. From there, chased the bully around the playground with everyone watching til the teachers finally caught up with them.
No punishment for my boy, but told him even if there was I would be with him - he did the right thing.
Makes a dad proud.
As a side note, he and the bully get along better now.
 
Bravo! Bravo! Bravo!

Reward that fine young man for his noble act.

Coming from a family that has Autism in our gene pool we have been on the receiving end of too much bullying.
My oldest son was bullied and ridiculed in local HS until he had a nervous breakdown and had to be hospitalized for almost a month.
My younger boy now 10, gets called fatty once in a while. I told him plain and simply. Knock them down, if the get up knock them down again. Repeat until they stop or teacher intervenes.
Principal tried to imply that Mark was the bully!
I "bullied" him into getting it right.
This year Mark"s friend Liam who has been home schooled due to being "odd" and getting bullied is returning to school. I told Mark, protect your friend, I"ll back you up with the Principal.
Flat out told Principal if there is any trouble with these 2 kids BEWARE, I am in surveillance and my kids might be wired!
Poor principal almost wet himself.
A.S.A.H. A label I gave myself.
Aspergers Syndrome A Hole, what"s your excuse?
Pete, graduate of the Dave2 school of people skills.
Aspergers defined
 
Kudos to your son and you!

In junior high, our son was bullied for being short. We explained that while our son should never bully, nor pick a fight - sometimes the only cure for a bully is to fight back in self-defense. Gave him our permission to defend himself. Next day our son took down the much bigger bully.

The principal did have a total fit about it. But my husband promptly went into his office and set him straight - that our son had a right to defend himself from physical harm (he was being knocked down and shoved into walls and lockers) and that we stood behind his self-defense actions 100%. Principal dropped the issue. Son has never been bullied by anyone since.
 
That kind of thinking is what has messed up our system. You have to use common sense. Which I understand is rare now in this country.

A 4 year old boy kisses a 4 year old girl on the hand. Gets branded as a child molester. Some kid gives another an asprin for a headache gets branded a drug dealer.

I was bullied by two of the football jocks in high school. One pushed me down one day.When I hit the ground I grabbed a rock. Without realizing it. I came up swinging hit one bully in the mouth with the rock. Solved the bully problem in one hit.
 
My cousin got three days off from school last spring. Some of the goober kids were video'n a bully push'n around this puney 14 year old. My cousin also 14 but the second biggest kid on the foot ball team stepped between them. The 17 year old who was on probation for steal'n a car punched him in the jaw twice with my cousin's hands up say'n "I don't want to fight just leave the kid alone" with three kid tape'n it. The 17 year old's 3rd punch missed and my cousin grabed him by the back of the collar, picked him up, and threw him through the bath room door. Even though it was on video of his hands up say'n he didn't want to fight for the first two punches with the school board's "zero tolerance" policy he had to be suspended for two days. Some how all 6 of his teachers (all of whom had seen the vidio and knew both kids) forgot to put the "zeros" in the computer for the days he was not there and he still had all "A's" for the semester. Some one sent a cell phone video to the county prosecutor and the 17 year old never came back to school, turns out first degree assault violated his probation.

Oh, and my cousin was in no trouble at home.

Dave
 
My son was getting harrassed at school by some pita kid for quite some time.

I had a meeting with my son's teachers where I told them to their shocked faces, very matter of factly, that I discussed it with my son and made it clear that it's the job of the teachers to step in and stop that that kind of behavior.

I expect him to report it to the teachers. But also told him in no uncertain terms - if the teachers can't control the situation or fail to do their jobs, then unfortunately, it's up to him. The only thing he can do is to hurt the other kid physically and make him remember it. That's just how life is, it's the only way it's going to stop.

I told him he has my full permission to punch the kid as hard as he can, and keep punching till he's sure the kid's not going to hit back.

Told him not to worry about getting in trouble, I'll back him up 100%, no questions asked.

As disgusted with me as the teachers were for "promoting violence" in my son, they finally, magically, managed to stop the harrassment.
 
Had and issue of that with my oldest daughter when she was in ninth grade One boy was being shell we say a littel bad and he was always grabbing at her in places that he should not have been well dear old dad told her that he did not want to hear about it anymore and for her to end this herself since school officials were doing nothing The next day this rude young boy snapped her bra strap and Vettet promptly swung around and punched him in the face and really broke his nose with blood gushing the whole nine yards . Well i get the call to go to the school and the principal and i have words . As this boy is the Guidance councilors son and he is not happy . well Dear OLD dad who has a vary short fuse is getting madder by the second as they are telling me that they are going to suspend my daughter for this as it was uncalled for . I sorta lot it and grabbed this idiot and drug him out of his chair and across his desk and looked at the guidance councilor and said that he was next and i would explain proper behavior of a young man to a young woman . As we had a special for the day two broken noses for the price of one . The matter was also dropped . Little johnny had a new out look on life now with a twisted nose.
 
Print off the replies to your post and show them to your son.

He was right in what he did. If he were my son, I'd be standing up for him and what he did 100% just like you are.
 
In our school your son will be in as much if not more trouble then the one who started it !! You will be lucky if it goes unreported.

Been there done that a few times with my boy. He was not the one who started it or even finished it , but still got into big trouble.
 
Remember you're only getting his version of the story as my ex mother-in-law use to say no piece of paper is so thin it doesn't have 2 sides.I've seen and been involved a few tussels and its a rare fight that both sides didn't have alot to do with it happening.
 
Congratulations! Give that young man a pat on the back!
Without mentioning names, the ones that feel he needs to be expelled are more than likely parents of bullies and spoiled brats that need some attention in school.
Sure wish they'd bring corporal punishment back! Some of the moron parents need a good arse whippin too!
 
I really hate Bullies when I was in grammar school I was 4' 10" and weighed 72 lbs. as one would expect I was the one that every bully picked on.
Well from my freshman year till I started my sophmore year I grew 7" ended the bulling when they had to lookup at me.
To this day I will grabb a bully by the ear lift him off the ground an let him know there will always be someone bigger than him.
Walt
 
Wow! I would love to get that boy an ice cream cone! Great job!

I am very impressed that your son has empathy and the courage to stand up for the little guy.

That isn't the norm these days.

BB
 
When my brother and I were teenagers we hung out at the country store. They had fresh eggs sitting around and one of the boys a grade behind us was trying to put an egg in my brother's pocket. He told him several times not to do that. It seem like a streak when he hit him and knocked him clear scross the ice cream cabinet. He told my brother he was going to get his brother
he said if he tries to put an egg in my pocket he will get the same thing. That boy he hit became a SgtMajor in the Army. A few years later my brother joined the Air Force and I was drafted. Hal
 
In our goofy school district all of the participants would have an automatic suspension of at least one day. Over the years 3 of my 5 kids were suspended that way, and I challenged the policy all three times. Never got anywhere though.

I always told my children that they had the absolute right to reasonably defend themselves if they were attacked. I totally disagree with the school district policy and wonder how it would stand up in court. Of course, I didn"t have the money to fight the policy/situations in court. Who knows what it might have cost? I did express my displeasure with the school in the voting booth.

My experience with bullies was that if I fought back effectively and vigorously, they NEVER bothered me again. Even treated me as a friend after I stood up to them.

Good for your son! I hope he is not punished for DOING THE RIGHT THING.
 
Been a teacher for 16 years - I would be proud of him, too. As has been said before, the teacher handled it like I would have but took quite a chance. Everything is supposed to follow a certain chain and God help you if it doesn't.

I don't abide by bullying in any way. It's a crime that we teach kids to be nice to everyone, though. I tell my kids a little differently. I don't care that you don't like someone, but respect them enough to steer clear. There is this push that everyone has to be genial to everyone. All of the kids should play together in love and joy. No way.

I know teachers that will get after kids for not letting everyone that wants to play with them. I don't think so. There are annoying kids just like there are annoying adults. If someone told me I had to spend my day talking so nicely to them and was forced to be around them I might light myself on fire. Lots of parents have thanked me for not making Johnny play with Soandso all day even they don't care for them. There is no need to be hateful about it, just say "no thank you" and go about your business. There are some kids that just thrive on having an adult get them their way all the time. Those kids amount to squat in the real world when they deal with life on their own two feet.

The kid went around it the right way - "I'm not looking for a fight". The bully has heard that a million times. He hasn't had someone stand up to him. That's what he will remember. If he doesn't maybe someone will clean his clock again. He will get it eventually.
 
My youngest son always took the side of the little guys when they were being picked on. But he was the biggest kid in his class. At 10 years old he was 5'2" and 157 lbs. One day he picked up the son of a school board member and pitched him across the room for picking on a kid in special ed. He told me about it but did not get in any trouble. By the way, graduated from high school as an honor student and got a scholarship to play football. (6'4" and 292 lbs) when he graduated.
 
JR Sutton,

My husband had also told that to the principal. That is was their job to make sure these things don"t happen. And that unless the teachers or the principal himself would be present at all times to protect our son, then our son had our full support to defend himself.

My husband is not a fighting man, nor is our son. It was only that one bully.
 
daughter had girl threaten her for solid week,called, etc, told her Monday was the day, she told her home room teacher about it that morning, told lunch teacher as well. Girl comes over to her table and takes swing at her, lunch teacher heads that way, daughter grabbed her, pulled her across the table and walloped her good. Teacher said he slowed down at that point so the other girl could get what she deserved, had been bullying a lot of girls. Principal says both suspended, told him will meet you at the board of education office and we will talk to superintendant about it since they couldnt prevent it although she told 2 teachers. He decided the bully got 2 days only, daughter just lectured. Bullies parents moved after that, heard she was in trouble everywhere she went. your son stood up for what is right, makes him OK by me
 
Daughter 9 got written up the other week in her school sponsored afterschool care for "bullying" after she told another girl that she wouldn't play with child x because she was a "Bad Apple". The child in question is a lier and troublemaker, who's actions are known both to the other children and the staff too. Anyway, seems one of the caretakers decided that any sort of 'name calling' was to be considered bullying.

When I talked to the caretaker the next morning I tried to get an answer about the situation and kept getting put off to her supervisor. My promise to her was that if they tried to push the issue they would find theirselves in the biggest $hitstorm they had ever seen.

Talked to the supervisor that afternoon and we got the situation resolved quite easily as she agreed with me wholeheartedly that the situation should have never happened in the first place. Other than a 'report' for their internal CYA practices noting my displeasure with the situation, the whole thing was dropped immediately. Smart move on their part.........
 
Hats off to that young man! Whats right is right, and whats wrong is wrong. Its to bad that you have to bend the rules a little to be on the right side of a bad situation.
 
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