Faith in younger generation

Just catching up on posts after a hosp stay. You get lots of time to think about things in the hosp. Hadn't seen one of my grandsons in a while. He lost his good job with GasCo's when they moved out, so he took a much less paying job in a local factory shoveling ashes away from a hot boiler. His wife is a nurseaid. Came to visit ole granpa draggin'azz tired after his shift. Now, I suspected he was head & shoulders above his stepbrother but now there is no doubt. He'd lost weight and showed me the callouses on his hands.
Granpa, "I've sold my truck (Ford Diesel 250, his pride & joy) and wheeler! We're trying to get a down payment together to get moved away from his MIL. Got almost all but 2thousand".
Fritzenfracken tissue box is always on the wrong side of the room in a hosp. Ennyway, had the wife bring my wallet back to the hosp and cleaned out my tractorfund and, with my other daughter we put together an envelope designated for the down payment. His mother bawled when she took it and said he did too, when he got it. Closing date is set. There IS hope! One MAKES a good part of it by their decisions and sometimes fate or luck or the good Lord fills in the rest.

olddog,
That is a really neat story. Thanks for sharing it. Neat of you to give the boy a hand.

Hope he will stay true to his goals. Perhaps one day, what goes around will come around... and he may help out his grandson because of your generosity to him.

When our kids borrowed money, we had them sign an interest bearing note just like at the bank. We forgave the interest when they paid us back the principle - but they've never asked to borrow money again!

kids today can go either way, i got lucky, and i know it, son is starting his second 8 year hitch in the navy has a good high tech job, he cant tell me much about it for security but it has something to do with fire control computers on ships, daughter is starting post grad classes working on her masters, degree, neither gave us much in the way of 'incidents' growing up sis's kid, well he was raise to believe anything he did was just fine no matter what it was, mommy would bail him out of whatever, now after numerous run ins with the law, he got him a degree in welding, had some hope for him,, sis set him up with a new mobile, the largest single wide they make, he has 3 pickups, supplied by sis, took a welding job in a factory, didnt even have to work out in the elements, sweet deal, i thought, but no, he was making 15 per hour, top wadges for a
kid fresh out of school,but because his instructor told him he was 'worth 30 per hour,[ i told him he had to pay his dues, he might be worth 30 per hour after he's been there 10 years but he had to remember there is men with 35 years experience wanting that job too] he gave it all up, just walked away from all of it, now he lives back home with mommy, got all his druggie friends dropping by too, dont recon he'll ever be worth anything now

Good for you.

I recently gave my daughter the down payment to move into her new house. She's got a good head on her shoulders and is living the values we taught. She is a new school teacher so extra money is hard to come by. It was cheaper for her to buy than rent. Rents in Houton have gotten high.

I don't "loan" money to family anymore. I gift it to them if I feel the need or not at all. I've found when I "loaned" it to them and they don'/can't pay it back, it destroys the relationship.

A simple no or gift seems maintain a good relationships.

Outstanding!

That is the ONLY way to do it with many.

Kinda sad sometimes. My father in law would help out his kids whenever they needed something. Only us and one BIL ever paid him back. 2 were still on the teat 3 months ago before my FIL passed. Don't know what those 2 are going to do now.

My kids have come to me for help. Sometimes I give money when something comes up that they really had no control over (not very often) but most of the time it's thier fault and I make em pay me back.

Rick

some and i mean vary few WANT OT work . case in point here the neighbor kid is lazy dead beat with a drunk for a father just lays around listens to loud music and whines then knocks up some girl and his parents think this is great . Always wanting to borrow things . was whining that he can not find a JOB , told him IF he really wanted to work i could have him working 10 hours a day for 10 bucks and hour to start BUT he would have to work . I have two friends that are having a hard time finding warm body workers to help with milking and some light chores . No he did not want to work that hard and it was not enough money .

I agree. I see a lot of my friends being sucked dry by their kids. It sounds harsh, but if they aren't on a successful path by time they are 25 or so, they are never going to be. The old days when anybody could get a job that can support a family are long gone.